25 deep questions for couples
Deep questions for couples are the ones you rarely ask on a normal night: what scares you about getting close, what was hardest to get through, which version of your life you gave up on. Some cards are simply asked aloud; on others, one of you answers privately and the other guesses. Take these Twosies cards slowly.
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- If one of you had to live far away for six months, what would be hardest?
- What's the scariest part of getting really close? Getting hurt if it ends · Needing them too much · Losing a bit of myself · Nothing, it's the best part
- What's the hardest thing the two of you have gotten through?
- What's a version of your life you gave up on?
- What's a decision you made out of fear and still defend?
- What part of yourself do you hide from almost everyone?
- What do you think you'll regret not doing?
- What do you think the two of you avoid talking about?
- What have you forgiven someone for without ever telling them?
- What do you think your partner worries about when they're alone?
- What do you need when you're falling apart that you never ask for?
- In the first month, what did you privately guess this would turn into? A few weeks, tops · A few good months, then done · Something serious, and that felt good · No idea, I didn't guess
- The last time you laughed until you couldn't breathe, what was it? Something pointlessly ridiculous · Something my partner said or did · A video or meme · Pure exhaustion, honestly
- Without a single word, what makes you feel loved? Being remembered in small things · A hug, a hand to hold · Being defended when I'm not there · Help, whenever I need it
- When you ask your partner for something you need, what's the worry? That they'll say no · That they'll do it grudgingly · That I'll owe them · None, I just ask
- There's a kind of joke you won't laugh at, even to be polite: Cruelty dressed up as a joke · Being made the punchline in front of others · A joke aimed at someone not in the room · None, I laugh at most things
- You've shown your partner something tender. What should they never do with it? Bring it up in an argument · Treat me like I'm fragile · Forget I showed them at all · Tell anyone else
- Even with your partner, what stays yours alone? A private corner of my head · Time that isn't shared · The right to change my mind · Nothing, I share it all
- What would you want your partner to say about you to someone else? That I'm steady · That I'm good company · That I actually listen · That they got lucky
- What's the hardest part of letting your partner all the way in? Trusting they'll stay · Believing I'm worth the trouble · Not performing for them · Nothing, I'm an open book
- What do you want from your partner that you almost never ask for out loud? To be chosen in front of others · To be left alone, together · The truth, even if it's late · More affection, plain and simple
- Your partner sees you at your worst. What do you hope they do? Stay, and not make it a thing · Say what they see, gently · Wait for me to explain it myself · Make me laugh about it
- What part of your partner's past do you wish you knew more about?
- What do you wish your partner understood about your family?
- When was the loneliest you have ever felt?
How to play it as a couple
- 1. Pick a calm evening and tap Play 10 cards. Sit close enough to share the screen.
- 2. Open cards: both answer out loud. Cards with options: one picks privately, the other guesses.
- 3. Stop whenever a card opens something big. You don't need to finish the round.
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In Twosies you each play on your own phone, answers stay hidden until you have both answered, and a score keeps track of how well you know each other.
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Questions people ask
What are deep questions to ask your partner?
Questions without a quick answer: what would be hardest if one of you lived far away for six months, what is the scariest part of getting really close, what is the hardest thing you two have gotten through. This page has 25, about half to talk through and half to guess.
How do we keep deep questions from turning into a fight?
Pick a calm evening, not the middle of a disagreement. Listen to the whole answer before you reply, and it's fine to say pass. If one card opens something big, stay there; you don't need to finish the deck in one sitting.
How many deep questions should we ask in one night?
Fewer than you think. Three or four good ones can fill an hour. The player here deals ten at a time, but you can stop whenever a conversation takes over and come back to the list another night.