25 questions to ask your boyfriend
Questions to ask your boyfriend work best when they give him an easy way in, like three or four answers to choose from instead of a blank. You read the card, he taps a pick where you can't see it, and then you guess. Most of these 25 Twosies cards go deep, and they suit any couple, whoever is asking.
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Easy ones
- You're in a bad mood and don't want to talk about it. What do you do? Go quiet and wait it out · Get out of the house · Put on something funny · Sleep it off
- What did you notice about them first? Their face or eyes · Their laugh or smile · Their voice · How they carried themselves
- What is the first thing you do when you get home? Change into sweatpants immediately · Open the fridge without being hungry · Put something on for the noise · Collapse onto the couch
- You're running errands with no deadline. How does the trip actually go? A list, in order, done fast · I wander, no set order · Most of it, plus a detour · They don't happen, honestly
- How does your week usually end up planned? Written down, and mostly kept to · Loosely, and it moves · It plans itself and I follow
A little deeper
- Your partner suggests a last-minute plan for tonight. First reaction? I'm in, let's go · Depends what it is · Yes, but give me a minute · I'd rather stay in
- Which of these do you do almost every day without deciding to? Make the bed before I leave the room · Keep a running list in my head all day · Put things back exactly where they belong · None of these, honestly
- The last half hour before sleep. What does it usually look like? A screen, until my eyes give out · A few quiet minutes with no screens · Tidying up so tomorrow starts clean · Asleep the second my head hits the pillow
- A conversation with your partner gets tense. What do you do? Keep going, carefully · Ask for a pause · Go quiet and wait · Get louder, honestly
The deep end
- A task you're dreading is on your list. What happens? Get it over with first · Put it off till it's urgent · Break it into tiny steps · Forget it exists, somehow
- What does this relationship give you that you didn't know you needed?
- What have you stopped hoping for?
- What's the hardest thing for you to say to your partner? That I'm hurt · That I need them · That I'm scared · "I love you"
- What do you need to hear from your partner to feel safe? That they're not going anywhere · That I can be honest with them · That they like me, not just love me · That we're a team
- Which risk would you take first for your partner? Being first to say how I feel · Letting them see I need them · Staying when leaving is easier
- Your partner disappoints you. What do you protect first? My own peace · The two of us · My picture of them
- What do you want your love to do to your partner? Leave them freer · Make them braver · Feel like home to them · Make their days easier
- When you ask your partner for something you need, what's the worry? That they'll say no · That they'll do it grudgingly · That I'll owe them · None, I just ask
- What's the hardest thing the two of you have gotten through?
- What's a version of your life you gave up on?
- When do you feel most like a fraud?
- What's something your partner said once that changed how you think?
- What grudge are you still carrying against someone?
- What part of yourself do you hide from almost everyone?
- What do you do to feel in control when nothing is?
How to play it as a couple
- 1. Tap Play 10 cards and hand him the phone first. He answers privately.
- 2. He passes it back and you guess. Turns swap, so he guesses yours on the next card.
- 3. Open questions have no options: just ask, listen, and let him ask you back.
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In Twosies you each play on your own phone, answers stay hidden until you have both answered, and a score keeps track of how well you know each other.
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Questions people ask
What should I ask my boyfriend to get to know him better?
Ask about the moments you don't see: what he does when he's in a bad mood and doesn't want to talk, how he handles a task he's dreading, what this relationship gives him that he didn't know he needed. This page has 25 like that, most of them deep.
Are these questions only for boyfriends?
No. They are partner-neutral and fit any couple: boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives, partners. The page is named for the people searching for questions to ask a boyfriend, but nothing on the cards assumes anyone's gender.
What if my boyfriend isn't into deep talks?
That's why many of these cards come with options. Picking one of a few answers feels like a game, not an interview, and your guess gives you both something to laugh about either way. Save the open questions for when he's warmed up.