70 how well do you know me questions for couples

How to play: two slips of paper and one tally

You need two pens, some scrap paper, and about twenty minutes. Read a question aloud. Each of you writes down two things: how you would answer, and how you think your partner would. Fold the slips and swap them. Open both at once.

Score one point for each correct guess, and keep a rough tally if you like. It matters less than it sounds. The best moments come from the misses, so when a guess lands wrong, ask for the full story before you move on.

Answer from your real life, not your best self. If you’d say you’re a calm driver but you grip the wheel, write the grip. Want a quicker round on one phone? Try the couples quiz. For open questions that need longer answers, the questions for couples deck is the next step, and more lists for two live in our articles.

Weekend mornings and the habits only you can see

1. The bed after sleeping in on a weekend: do you make it, and how neat is it?
2. The coffee is made and one cup is yours. Do you drink it hot, lukewarm, or cold by the end?
3. Someone opens the curtains too early. What do you say, and how do you say it?
4. Your phone is on the nightstand. How many minutes do you scroll before you get up?
5. You’re half dressed and running late. What do you reach for when nothing matches?
6. Your partner is still asleep and the apartment is quiet. What do you do with that hour?
7. The bathroom light is on and the mirror is fogged. How long is your shower, to the nearest five minutes?
8. You’re looking for your keys. Where do you check first, and where second?
9. You wake up with a song in your head. Which song was it the last time?
10. The farmers market closes at noon. Do you make it there, and what’s in the tote bag when you get back?

Sam: I’d have sworn Anna slept through the market. Turns out she goes every Saturday at eight while I’m still asleep, and the peaches I thought were “from the store” are hers.

Food, the kitchen, and the couch at night

1. A pan is smoking and the recipe says “medium heat.” Do you follow it or trust your gut?
2. It’s midnight and the fridge is open. What do you take out first?
3. Your food arrives at the restaurant and it’s not what you ordered. Do you say something or eat it?
4. You’re making dinner for guests. What’s the one dish you’d cook every time?
5. The takeout menu is in your hand. What do you order when you’re tired?
6. You’re the one plating dinner for two. Who gets the bigger portion, and do you even notice?
7. You’re cooking together and a pan goes wrong. What’s the first thing you say?
8. The dishwasher is full and loaded your way. How do you feel about someone rearranging it?
9. A movie is half over and you’ve lost the plot. Do you ask or pretend?
10. Couch, blanket, one remote. Which snack do you reach for around the second hour?

Anna: He got the midnight fridge one right: cold pasta, standing up. I was proud of him and a little scared.

Your phone, your texts, and how you write to each other

1. A message arrives while you’re driving. How long does it wait before you answer?
2. You’re in a meeting and your partner calls. Do you pick up, decline, or text back?
3. Your lock screen photo changed last month. What’s on it right now? No peeking.
4. You want to say something tender. Do you write it, say it, or send a meme instead?
5. A group chat has 80 unread messages. How many do you actually read?
6. You send a long text and get “ok” back. What goes through your head?
7. You spot a typo in a text you already sent. Do you send the correction with an asterisk?
8. A photo of the two of you comes up in your memories. Do you send it or keep it to yourself?
9. You’re typing a reply and stop halfway. What does the unsent message usually say?
10. Your phone buzzes at midnight with news. Who’s the first person you call?

Sam: “The unsent message” was the best question of the night. Anna said she writes me a joke, deletes it and sends a heart.

Road trips and how you act in a city you don’t know

1. You’re in the passenger seat and the route looks wrong. What do you say, if anything?
2. The playlist is on shuffle and a song you hate comes up. What’s your move?
3. A gas station is coming up and the tank is almost empty. Do you stop now or push on?
4. You pack for a three-day trip. How many bags, and how many outfits come home unworn?
5. The hotel room looks nothing like the photos. Do you complain or make the best of it?
6. You land in a city where you don’t speak the language. What’s your first move at the airport?
7. A street market has one stall with a long line. Do you join it?
8. The map says forty minutes on foot. Do you walk, take a cab, or look for a bus?
9. You’re lost and nobody wants to be the one who says it. Who says it first?
10. A gift shop sells something silly with your name on it. Do you buy it?

Fears, small joys, and the day everything goes wrong

1. A thunderstorm shakes the windows at night. What do you do, and what do you pretend you don’t feel?
2. The dentist’s waiting room is silent. What runs through your mind?
3. An email from your boss lands with a long subject line. How long before you open it?
4. Your name is spelled wrong on your coffee cup. Do you correct it or just take the new name?
5. A spider sits in the corner of the bathroom. Who takes care of it, and how?
6. Someone hands you a surprise gift in public. What does your face do?
7. A parking ticket you think is unfair is on the windshield. Do you pay it, fight it, or leave it on the fridge for a month?
8. A song from your teens plays in a store. Do you sing along or leave the aisle?
9. You get a small win at work and no one notices. How do you celebrate by yourself?
10. Your favorite mug breaks. What’s your reaction in the first minute, and in the last?

Anna: Sam guessed the mug one exactly. Hand to chest, “no,” and a full minute of silence. I wasn’t ready for how much it meant that he knew.

Before you: childhood, school, and the first job

1. Your first day at a new school. What do you remember eating that day, or where did you sit?
2. Summer vacation, age ten. Where did you spend most of it?
3. A nickname you had in school. Which one stuck, and who gave it to you?
4. Your room as a teenager. What’s one thing that was on the wall?
5. A teacher told you something you never forgot. What was it about?
6. Your first paid job. What did you do, and what did you spend the first paycheck on?
7. The family dinner table when you were a kid. Where did you sit, and who talked the most?
8. A pet or a toy you were attached to. What was its name?
9. You got in trouble once and still tell the story. What happened?
10. Your first phone or your first computer. What did you use it for in the first week?

Plans and dreams you only say quietly

1. You get a free year and the money to cover it. What’s the first thing you’d do with it?
2. A town you pass on a train looks perfect. Would you move there, and what would you do for work?
3. Your friends ask what you want to be doing at 50. What answer do you give, and which one do you keep to yourself?
4. A blank wall in your future home. What goes on it?
5. You’re offered a job in another country. What’s the first question you ask your partner?
6. You lie awake at 2 a.m. thinking about a project you never started. Which one?
7. A kid asks you what you wanted to be. What would you tell them today?
8. You win a small prize to spend on learning one skill. Which skill?
9. The two of you have a quiet Sunday ten years from now. What does it look like?
10. A dream you’ve never told anyone. Which category is it: home, travel, work, or art?

Sam: We stopped scoring around question eight here. Anna had a plan for a house I’d never heard about. I’d happily lose that one every night.